Key takeaways:

#1: How does one become an actor?

The traditional route is to go to drama school-Luke was in a drama school for four years and it was one of the best experiences of his life as it definitely transformed him and taught him discipline.

At the same time, Luke explains that there are a lot of people who had successful acting careers who didn’t attend drama school.  What matters most according to Luke is to have a very strong desire to become an actor, work exceptionally hard on improving and be willing to overcome all the inevitable setbacks.

Action step: If you have big goals, spend some time thinking WHY they are so important to you. The more you want something for your own sake, the more likely it is you will be willing to do what it takes, in the long run.

#2: How’s the life that surrounds actors and aspiring actors?

It is a very glamorous industry, there’s no question about that- after all it’s called show business for a reason. However,  what people don’t see is all the work that goes on behind the scenes. For example, if you’re on a big-budget film, most of the less known actors will be filming two minutes a day of that film and there’s a lot of sitting around and waiting around.

Action step: What are sacrifices you are willing to accept to become exceptionally successful in your career?

#3: Why is thinking a skill that actors need to master?

As an actor, you have to be able to do one thing which creates a character. To create a character you have to create the thought of the character.

Now here is the thing about thoughts:

We all have a set of thoughts which are unique.  In other words, no one else has our unique set of thoughts and the thoughts that we have about ourselves, about life in general and about people come from our experiences. Luke calls our unique thoughts, our Mindprint- because like a fingerprint nobody has the same Mindprint as you or me.

Luke goes on to explain that when an actor creates a character he has to first understand his own mindprint, which means he needs to know how he has shaped his thoughts, that these thoughts are not real and that we can change our thoughts when we want to.  Without such awareness, our thoughts keep popping in and knocking out the thoughts that we are trying to entertain to act our character. At the same time, Luke goes on to say that once we start seeing our thoughts for what they are- just thoughts- we create more space in our head which allows us to hold the thoughts of our character.

Action step: Start slowing down your thinking until you become aware of some of the thoughts you have on a consistent basis. Develop curiosity about how these thoughts have been formed, and about how accurate they really are.

#4: Are you saying that we can visualize the characters we want to be in real life, as well? For example, if I want to be a tennis champion, imagining this character on a regular basis will help me?

The brain thinks in pictures and images, so if you visualize what you want, the brain helps you create the people, opportunities and skill sets to achieve your big dreams. So if you want to be a world class tennis player, imagining yourself play big events with a lot of sense data will help. As Napoleon Hill famously said:

“What a mind can conceive it can achieve,”

Action steps: Spend a few minutes visualizing your big goals in clear pictures and with a lot of sense data.

#6: What else separates successful actors from everyone else?

As an actor, I think that you’ve got your training and then you’re entering an incredibly competitive environment so you have to be the best of the best which means you have to push yourself to be the best.

I also think that acting is like anything else in life in that if you work hard you will get somewhere. You also have to build many other skills, for example, you have to be friendly, outgoing, you have to be sociable, you have to be able to make connections especially if you are self-employed.

I think that self-awareness and taking responsibility for your thoughts and what you think and what’s holding you back will help you to succeed in any industry.

Action steps: What skills do you plan to develop to become a leader of your industry?

#7: Why people can have so much success on one level but still not be happy and feel that they haven’t achieved anything?

In Luke’s view, the most meaningful thing in life is the connection with other people.

Action step: What is one way you can upgrade an important relationship in your life?

#8: What do you say to people who tell you “I don’t find that perfect match”?

Relationships are hard work you never learn more about yourself than from a relationship. The biggest struggle often is being self-aware enough to realize why you are putting people off.

For example, men who are trying to improve their relationships with women and who want their results in that area, need to learn to relate to women better. The problem is that they are so wrapped up in their own fears and insecurities that they’re unable to connect with that person, unable to be present at all because they’re so in their own thoughts  instead of connecting to that person-they’re actually just thinking of all their doubts and inferiorities that are coming and that’s what’s running them.

So it’s very much about slowing down, disconnecting from the thoughts and realizing that we are more than our thoughts. In fact, there’s a space that our thoughts operate in and in that space that’s the freedom and that’s where the gap between stimulus and response.

As Viktor Frankl said:

“Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”

Action steps: Practice meditation 10-20 minutes a day if you struggle with being more present.

#9: What is the biggest challenge for men, when it comes to dating?

Women often have no idea how frightened men are of just talking to them or just approaching a woman that they find attractive. It can be debilitating for so many men. What Luke realized is that it’s always the same impression- there’s this fear of humiliation.

So the brain will start things that would never actually happen like:

  • She might slap me.
  • She might just turn her back on me.
  • She might start laughing at me.

Obviously, these fears are rarely justified, they are just thoughts.

Action steps: Think of something you are afraid of, and be curious about how you have shaped those thoughts.

#10: When you work with men you, do first and foremost work on then becoming their best self or do you teach them techniques on how to meet a woman or both?

It depends on the client but there’s no question that with every client it always starts with yourself because you’re never going to be able to hold space for a relationship and bring another person into your life until you are happy with yourself.

#11: When you work with clients what is generally the first big aha moment?

The big thing is relating their actions to something that happened in their life usually in their first ten years because when you’re young your consciousness is still forming your personality and is being created. It’s very soft and very malleable and things that happen to you can leave a big dent on the formation of your consciousness. They can make a mark into who you are and without fail everybody’s got unresolved issues from back then.

Action steps: Spend some time thinking of early memories that may still be shaping your adult life.

Note: if you have experienced traumatic events, or believe traumatic thoughts might come up, I highly recommend you work with a professional therapist. Life is too short not to tackle the issues that are holding us back, and if they are serious, then working with a professional in my personal view is a must.

#12: What are the habits and the thinking patterns that separate those who were successful from everyone else?

What separates successful people from others that they are willing to confront the thoughts that are stopping them from succeeding so that they can experience real change.




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Man’s Search For Meaning, by Viktor Frankl

The Road Less Traveled, by M Scott Peck

The Presence Process, by Michael Brown

The Power Of Now, by Eckhart Tolle

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, by Stephen Covey

12 Rules For Life, by Dr. Jordan Peterson



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