#1: When I met you and when you started studying, was there a lot of pressure because of the student loans or expectations or what was the situation for you and what were your goals at that stage?
Hard and easy – because you set the building blocks in your life so at least you’re not thrown into a situation where it’s sink or swim.
Everything that you do is one step closer towards your goal and if you have a goal to be whatever it is a lawyer or doctor or just somebody who wakes up in the morning and makes it through to lunchtime, it’s one step at a time and you learn by putting in or place certain goals and certain building blocks to help you succeed.
So, it wasn’t so much the pressure although the pressure was there but it was just “doing the simple things right so if you do the simple things right in life the big things will take care of
#2: What are the skills you need to master in order to be successful?
Setting yourself up for success and doing the small things right.
Action step: Break down one big goal you have into small monthly and even weekly benchmarks.
#3: What are the key skills that really make a great lawyer?
Hard work, persistence and there’s no need to be that smart or clever because at the end of the day if it takes somebody one hour to learn something who’s really really smart and clever., we can put in the right attitude and do the same thing in say two hours.
Persistence, work ethic and just knowing what you want to achieve are some of the most important skills.
Action steps: What skill could you learn that would help you accelerate in your career?
#4: In your career, you specialized in the industry of oil- did you know from the very beginning that you wanted to focus on that niche?
“I found that’s something that I really liked to do – it didn’t feel like work at the end of the day. I think one of the recipes for success is to do what you like.”
Action steps: How can you direct your career in a way that you do things you really enjoy?
#5: You’ve been in many different countries many different cultures how do you adapt to different cultures?
It’s about personal connections, getting to know somebody.
Just to get to know the people and building those relationships, building those context. Is the key
#6: How would you teach someone these human skills if you had to give them advice?
There’s a really good book it’s published by the Harvard Business Review and it’s called “EQ” and within it, it’s got ten or fifteen articles written by different people short articles.
You could pick it up and read it on the bus on the way home or after an evening and it’s different people writing different stories about emotional intelligence and how you can do to achieve those.
So that’s one great key.
Action steps: What can you do to improve your social skills?
#7: How do you manage such a high responsibility professionally with such a demanding career with your family life?
One of the keys is, as you get busier you just have to become better organized and there’s no simple way to do it- it could just simply mean packing your bag the night before having a quick look at your calendar so you don’t wake up rushed the morning.
#8: What makes a good dad and a good husband?
At the end of the day you do need to make priorities in life and for me, it’s always family, work and then friends and trying to build in some exercise to fit around.
Action steps: How can you carve out time for your family, every single day?
#9: How do you teach your daughter persistence or how are you thinking to ever convey that message or do you think you leave it up to school?
Kyle came up with three rules for his daughters:
- Listen to your teachers: Kyle thinks that the first rule is really important because the learning comes from the teachers and if they’re listening to the teachers they’re learning and they’re engaged.
- Know that you can be anything you want: We all know that unfortunately there is a disparity in life between women and men. Kyle wants to empower his daughters by letting them understand that they can be anything they want and no one should stop them and tell them for example that they can’t be a doctor or physicists or a hairdresser or whatever. This choice is entirely up to them.
- You need to be willing to work hard: Success is all about persistence, and no one’s going to hand them anything on a silver platter. They have got to go out there and work for it.
Action steps: What guidelines and principles do you have for yourself?
#10: How did Kyle prepare for the Ironman?
He hired a coach and together they worked through his schedules and put a plan together of the things that Kyle could achieve throughout the week and things that Kyle couldn’t- and with that plan and with the help of a friend who had done the Ironman before, Kyle made sure he took daily action.
Action steps: Commit to something challenging that will require effort, persistence and a plan. This could be a marathon, executing a new business idea or entering some kind of competition.
#11: When you train how do you push yourself mentally?
- Just have a mental image of something in your mind that does want you to keep going: Whether that’s your daughter or doing it for a family member or whatever, that really does give you the motivation to persist.
- Then there’s this kind of the mental side where you create benchmarks: “If I just make it to that aid station I can have another cookie’’, or ‘’let’s just make it to the top of that bad hill so I can beat the person running beside me”.
- Keep yourself motivated like “man I’m lucky to be doing this’’.
#12: What’s the best daily practice you have in your life?
You got to be organized, you have to have a plan and organize around it.
#13: Favorite quote
“A man’s reach should always exceed his grasp” by Robert Browning
#14: What’s your favorite book/ book you love.